Just say NO...
Like so many other things in our lives, we want to help others, offer a bit of ourselves, without thinking about the impact or effect that it has on us, and our mental health.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Of course it's important to say yes to lots of new things, and explore what is new and keep progressing. But only if that will be good for us too. Some selfless tasks are lovely to do and helping others actually has a positive effect on our mental health. But we need to balance it out if we only hear ourselves saying yes all of the time.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Yes I can go out, even though you're really tired and need an early night.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Yes I can take that bit of work for you, even though your work load is sky high.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Yes I can sit here for 2 hours, at least once a week, listening to your problems, with no resolution or mutual conversation. Yes, yes, yes...wait no! I can't do that today as that will have a huge impact on me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If you feel like the yes is causing you stress and meaning that you are feeling resentful, this is when we need to start practicing the occasional no. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We can't do it all, and the need to please in some of us over rides the need to have our needs met. To realise that you are important too, and you matter.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀